There are common sleep problems that appear again and again in babies under 12 weeks old. Here are the ones that we encounter most often.
My baby won’t sleep in her
cot / crib OR my baby will only go to sleep if I rock them to sleep in my arms
If you were rocked to sleep in my mother’s nice warm womb for 9 months you would prefer to go to sleep having a cuddle too. Who wants to lie in a cold, hard and lonely cot? Sleep habits are learned, and learning to go to sleep in a cot rather than in mom or dad’s arms is another lesson your baby is going to have to learn. It won’t happen overnight, and it doesn’t need to be a harsh process. Of course, if you prefer to rock your baby to sleep, then this is totally up to you, and this is your own personal parenting choice and there is nothing wrong with it. Your child will eventually have to learn how to fall asleep on their own and the timing is up to you.
Start gently by placing your baby in their cot just after they have drifted off to sleep, but keep a tight hold of them for a few minutes after you have put them down so they still have the feeling of being secure. It can help immensely if you swaddle. Gradually start putting your baby down a little sooner, with the ultimate goal being putting them in their cot very sleepy, but still awake. There is nothing wrong with holding them or having a firm hand on their chest so they feel your touch and your presence while they drop off to sleep. If your baby is still in the newborn phase they might be startling themselves awake at the 10 or 2o minute mark, so you might need to stay with them to help them through these transitions.
My baby sleeps fine during the day but won’t sleep at night
Almost all newborns will go through a phase where they get their days and nights mixed up, this is a really common sleep problem. This normally resolves itself by the time they are 6 weeks old and you don’t need to do anything to help them switch over, it just happens. While it is tiring, if you are able to sleep during the day when your baby sleeps then you will have more energy to attend to them when they are awake at night.
If your baby is older than 6 weeks, was not born prematurely and still tends to spend more time awake than at night than during the day then it might be worth intervening a little and assisting them to get their days and nights sorted. The best way to to do this is to help them stay awake for longer during the day and have shorter naps. I would recommend looking at the awake time chart to see how long your baby should be staying awake between naps. Aim for this gradually if you can, increasing their awake time in intervals until they are meeting the awake time recommended in the high sleep needs column. The second thing you can do is make sure they don’t go longer than 4 hours between feeds during the day time. This will probably mean waking them from a nap in order to feed. Babies who have long
My baby still wakes up hungry in the middle of the night
Unless your 8-12 week old is waking
My baby only sleeps for 10 minutes at a time
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My baby is a
45 minute napper
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Where to get more help
I highly recommend having a look at the book The Wonder Weeks, it will give you some really good insights into your baby’s
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